A Ministry of Make and Deepen Disciples

Sexual Wellness

Promote health and healing in personal sexuality

This section promotes overall wellness and healing in a number of areas related to sexuality. Potential topics to be engaged include sexual abuse, sexual harassment, divorce care, and freedom from pornography, among others. Sexual brokenness manifests in individuals and impacts relationships in a myriad of ways. These resources are not meant to place blame or judge motivation or spiritual maturity, nor are they meant to offer legal guidance. Rather, they are offered to promote healing across a spectrum—for aggressors/offenders, survivors, family and loved ones, men and women—and to do so both proactively and restoratively. Our hope is that these resources will provide ways to endure, overcome, heal, and embrace once again God’s all-encompassing, radical love.

I. General Reading for Wellness in Sexuality

  1. Redeemed Sexuality: 12 Sessions for Healing and Transformation in Community, by Andrew Boa
  2. Who God Says You Are: A Christian Understanding of Identity, by Klyne Snodgrass
  3. Redeeming Sex: Naked Conversations about Sexuality and Spirituality, by Debra Hirsch
  4. Talking to Your Kids about Sex: How to Have a Lifetime of Age-Appropriate Conversations with Your Children about Healthy Sexuality, by Mark Laaser
  5. The End of Sexual Identity: Why Sex Is Too Important to Define Who We Are, by Jennell Paris

II. Sexual Harassment Awareness and Prevention

Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC)

ECC Statement

Case Law and the Church

Boundaries Training

Church Resource


III. Sexual Issues in Marriage

Psychology Today

American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists


IV. Sexuality and Singleness


V. Recovery Resources for Sexual Addictions

BOOKS:

General for the Addict

  1. Don’t Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction, by Patrick Carnes
  2. Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery, by Patrick Carnes (workbook)
  3. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction, by Patrick Carnes
  4. Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred, by Patrick Carnes
  5. Leaving the Enchanted Forest: The Path from Relationship Addiction to Intimacy, by Stephanie Covington
  6. Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction, by Mark Laaser
  7. Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Healing Power of Jesus, by Russell Willingham
  8. False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction, by Harry Schaumburg
  9. Lust, Anger, Love: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Road to Healthy Intimacy, by Maureen Canning
  10. Porn Nation, by Michael Leahy
  11. Facing Love Addiction, by Pia Melody
  12. Facing Codependence, by Pia Melody
  13. The Intimacy Factor, by Pia Melody
  14. Healing the Shame that Binds You, by John Bradshaw

Women Sex Addicts

  1. No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Shame, by Marnie Ferree
  2. Women, Sex, and Addiction, by Charlotte Davis Kasl

12 Step Literature

  1. SLAA Basic Text
  2. AA Big Book
  3. Twelve Steps for Christians
  4. Life Recovery Bible
  5. Answers in the Heart (Daily Meditations for Men and Women Recovering from Sex Addiction)

For Spouses and Loved Ones

  1. Shattered Vows: Hope and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed, by Debra Laaser
  2. S.A.R.A.H.: Spouses of Addicts Rebuilding and Healing, by Richard Blankenship
  3. Co-SLAA and Co-SA Literature (cosa-recovery.org)
Internet Resources:

Advice on filters and screens

Accountability Software

PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING:

Bethesda Workshops (c/o Woodmont Hills Counseling Center)

Faithful and True Ministry

Pine Grove Treatment

Stone Gate Resources

Marble Retreat

Link Care Center

Self-Help Groups:
12 STEP GROUPS

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)

Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA)

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)

FOR CO-ADDICTS/SPOUSES

S-Anon Family Groups (S-Anon)

Codependents of Sex Addicts (COSA)


VI. Resources On Domestic Abuse

ECC Resources and Training:
Books:
  1. Door of Hope: Recognizing and Resolving the Pains of Your Past, by Jan Frank
  2. The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
  3. The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse, by Dan Allender
  4. Rebuilding Your Broken World, by Gordon MacDonald
Agencies:

 FaithTrust Institute

Training seminars, keynote presentations, and resource catalog with online store to purchase curricula, videos, brochures, and publications.

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

National directory of DV programs, information on referral services

National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Provides counseling and information about shelters and services in all states.

Abigail’s

Online support group for women with an abusive partner

Institute on Domestic Violence in the African American Community

Asian and Pacific Islander Institute on Gender-Based Violence

Mending the Sacred Hoop

Dedicated to strengthening the voice and vision of Native peoples through grassroots organizing, restoring the leadership of Native women in addressing and ending domestic and sexual violence nationally.

Casa de Esperanza

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As we develop Embrace, we hope to receive feedback from diverse voices, especially with regard to existing resources or experiences which you have found to be helpful and effective. Feel free to connect with us anytime at embrace@covchurch.org.

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